Saturday, May 30, 2009

Can love be described?

CAN LOVE BE DESCRIBED?
How can you describe love? How can you tell that you are really in love?
Love is a difficult thing to explain but not difficult to express. There is a saying that you can give without loving but you can’t love without giving.

Yes! Love involves giving, and giving means sharing. You share what you have not just with your spouse but with every other person you claim to love. I will be specifying on those in relationships but are not sure if the relationship is altar-bound.
Love means sharing. It means sharing your time, resources, and everything you can call your own. Love also involves making sacrifices. This is a major thing you have to take note of when you are dating or in a serious relationship.

If your partner is tight-fisted, even to you, then you have to watch out, it is really one of the dangerous signs to guard against. Love is not one-sided and it will never be. If you are in a relationship and you think your partner is in love with you but it looks like you are the only one trying to make it work, then you are in a one-sided relationship. Love involves commitment. It involves two different people working together to bring out a life of bliss from life’s challenges.

Some people don’t even know if they are in love! They have numerous girlfriends that they like but they can’t just seem to be able to ask one to marry them. Some ladies, due to one past experience or the other, have closed their hearts to love. They can’t see any good in a man.

Well, for love to thrive, you have to let go of all your bad experiences. You have to learn to forgive, only them can you love yourself. Once you can love yourself, you can then love other people positively. Married couples that stay married have come to accept that they have to love their spouse with the whole package. A tall, dark and handsome man might not be a clean person and a short, beautiful woman might be lousy. But if you genuinely love them as individuals, then you must be willing to love the whole package.

I think that above all what has being said above and you still can describe if you are in love, then you should check your expectations of a perfect man or woman. There is no perfect man or woman anywhere. As the days pass by in the relationship, you teach each other to be that perfect spouse. Bad characters die hard; don’t expect your partner to change overnight because it won’t work. You have to be patient and in that process, you will be hurt several times. You have to learn how to communicate and appreciate when the other person is making the effort to change.

Love is an individual thing. Nobody can be forced to fall in love. But you can nurture love. You can invest in it and see it yield rewards. You can be patient and not nagging. You can be quite and not criticizing. You can be willing to learn and not lord what you want on your partner. Love is a beautiful thing.

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