Tips on Keeping Your Marriage Together

Respect his family members:
A man’s extended family is an integral part of his life now that you are his nuclear family. Coping with in-laws can be frustrating especially with mothers that don’t approve of you (like Monster-in-law), but bringing that baggage into your home is not needed. Be the best daughter-in-law you can be and help your husband in family affairs. The most important thing is that you are his wife whether they like it or not and then he loves you. Stay clear of anything that might cause friction between you and his family.

A warm welcome is not a bad idea:
Welcoming your spouse home from work or whenever he or she has being to may seem unimportant but it is the reason why your husband comes back home to you or why your wife looks forward to seeing you that day. It fosters intimacy between both of you.

Can you imagine how hurt your wife will be if she finds out you transferred some funds from your mutual account without her knowledge or how you would feel if you learnt that she changed your child’s school? Marriage is a partnership; hence the consciousness to make decisions together is very crucial in your marriage. You end up making decisions that will be mutual and favourable to each other.

Independence:
It is important that husbands and wives should not lose their identity if they are to succeed working together as a team. A woman lost her husband after thirty years of marriage and suddenly, she was at a crossroad. She didn’t know what she wanted because she had lived all her life for her husband. She cooked what he wanted, wore what he liked, went only to places he preferred and watched movies he chooses. She practically lived in her husband’s shadow and didn’t have her own identity. She had lost her own sense of independence. You should both have at least one activity that does not involve your spouse.

Celebrate as much as you can:
Make the most of your special times. Celebrate events like a promotion, acquiring your dream house, when your wife is pregnant and so on. Life is full of ups and downs and it is also short, so have fun and treat yourselves while you look forward to the next best thing.