Happy Everafter!

Marriage, marriage, marriage!
It is not always a bed of roses
It can be fun, demanding, rewarding and tasking
It is where you share moments of joy and sorrow with the one you love
It is where you conceive, raise and watch the children leave the nest
It is where you nurse each other out of sicknesses
It is where you comfort each other and encourage yourselves out of the storms of life
It is where you quarrel and fight and are threatened with a separation or divorce
It is where love is meant to grow and grow and grow
That is marriage.

This is all of your life so why not read these few tips to make it worthwhile.

1. Don’t mete out with the same yardstick.
There is no relationship that does not have the two parties quarreling or fighting. You wonder why you have hardly heard any shouting from family B while family A can not do without fighting every weekend. Well, I guess that family B knows how to settle their grievances with each other better.
If your husband is criticizing you or angry at how you handled a situation, whatever it is, you are erupting volcanoes if you meet him headlong with a matching anger. Why not listen to his point of view and express yours in a more quiet and mature way.
I have learnt that a soft answer turns away wrath. I have also learnt that when someone is expressing their view, it means I have not reasoned that way yet and so I listen.

2. Always try to remain attractive… be your best.
A woman just told me that because you are a career woman or stay at home mum, does not give you the right to neglect your body and looks.
Same goes for the husbands, because you are always on the shirt and tie does not mean you should not look sexy in shorts and a tee-shirt. Try and get rid of the pot-bellies’ and flaccid muscles. Take care of your beards and moustache. There is nothing wrong in asking your wife if she likes your beard or you should trim it some more. There is nothing wrong in using deodorants. If you are a handy-man, take your bath and smell nice. Your wife was not tripped when you were all sweaty and smelly. I am sure she saw a beautiful body structure smelling nice and a cute face.
Women, for crying out loud, do a manicure. Go to the saloon, take your bath. No man likes a smelly wife neither does a woman like a smelly man.

3. Please and please, make time for yourselves.
As a career mum or stay at home mum, you will quickly realize that 24hours is really a short time. Your husband, your kids (and job) take the most of your day and you hardly get a minute to sit down or be quiet within.
There is nothing wrong with taking a day off. Drop the kids with their grandparents or get a babysitter. Have a ladies’ day out or take a drive. Just do something to refresh yourself, give you a new perspective and meet new people. You will be surprised how awesome you will feel and how different you will relate to your spouse and kids.

4. Don’t ever try to change him or her.
You married each other for he or she is. You love him or her that way. If your wife is very outspoken or your husband does not want to try new colours in his wardrobe, then leave it at that. It is okay to chip in some advice lovingly but do not enforce a change. Enforcing or insisting you have your way will drive your spouse away.
She might not want to tell you what happened when she spoke her mind to a colleague and he might not let you know when he gives away the new-colored shirt you just bought for him

5. Gifts can really go a long way………..
Buying gifts for your spouse should not be a practice that is left undone for a long time. Marriage is a give and take affair, and that includes giving gifts. Buying long-stemmed roses or her favorite flowers and giving him a new shaving kit is a very good investment with guaranteed yields of profit.
You can help take out the trash can or offer to cook or change the baby’s diapers. No matter how little it is or trivial, that gift of yours will definitely make your spouse’s day because it was bought or done out of love.

Thanks for reading. There will be a concluding part soon.

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